Some people are just not meant to fill the shoes you give them in our hearts. It is the reality for so many people in love and in friendship who are stuck waiting for people to show up how they want them to be.
Unfortunately people do not show up in your personally assigned costume. They show up broken, damaged, imperfect and sometimes even cruel. They show up to teach us we can be better or they show up to teach us how to be better.
Either way they are themselves and no matter who or what we want them to be they cannot change.
There is, however, a rare instance, almost a miracle of sorts. Wherein
For example, in a relationship, one can see the rare occurrence of a man or a woman being inspired for change. A person once shy is suddenly outgoing. A man once lazy is an inspired workaholic. A friend once ignorant of their negligence is the most devout. These and other examples are a result of an internal shift in that person. Sometimes no one has to ask other times it is pointed out to them.
In both cases the person in question makes a DECISION. “Will I continue to be an a**hole or will I take this opportunity to make someone else happy? Will my relationships be defined by selfishness or will it be about the selfless acts I can bring to this person’s life?”
Many cannot step up to the challenge. That is why I teach the art of self improvement because sometimes there is nothing you can do for that person but there is always something you can do increase and most of all recognize your true self worth!
Don’t sit around waiting for the heart breaker to finally give you the time of day, don’t sit around hoping your friends will celebrate you after all you do for them.
Speak up or move on. Or BOTH! But do not give into the game of waiting for another human being to give you the love you KNOW you deserve.